Kio Stark

I was disappointed in this short book. I had read a synopsis of it and it sounded interesting, but, frankly, it really didn't say anything I didn't already know.
The research included was illuminating, but really only served to reinforce ideas and conclusions I had already reached. From smiling and greeting strangers while on a walk, to engaging with strangers while on a subway or bus, to talking to strangers while waiting inlines, everything covered in this book was really not new, and I believe most people could have pretty much come to the same observations and conclusions that are reached in this book.… (plus d'informations)

Advocates for talking to strangers as a way of reinforcing, and surprising ourselves (and our interlocutors) with, the humanity of other people. Suggests that voluntary encounters with strangers can be deeply intimate and rewarding in ways that encounters with people we already “know” often aren’t because of the surprise of the encounter. Has a bunch of cautionary language about unwantedness and differential access to public space; says that the virtue of encounters with strangers is cross-cultural but I wondered to what extent that was true.… (plus d'informations)

3.5 This is a TED book, which means it was originally a TED talk (which I have not seen) and expanded a little. It's cute -- like a gift book with substance. Kio Stark's premise is that talking to strangers is fun and important (oversimplified) and she does have some caveats about safety and appropriateness which I appreciated. While the concept seems simple, it is bolstered by sociology and ethnography and some pretty thorough research. Here's her reasoning in her own words: "When you talk with strangers, you make beautiful and surprising interruptions in the expected narrative of your daily life. You shift perspective. You form momentary, meaningful connections. You find questions whose answers you thought you knew. You reject the ideas that make us so suspicious of each other." (2) In all honesty this book has nudged me to make an effort to talk to people I encounter rather than just smile or nod. It takes a little time and more importantly, purpose. Usually my purpose is to accomplish whatever errand or task I'm doing as quickly as possible with minimal interruptions. Re-thinking that approach. It's been nice to have my eyes opened. She includes a few "expeditions" that would make encounters with strangers even more intentional, (getting 'lost' in a new neighborhood, asking people for directions, saying hello to every single person you encounter on a half hour walk -- presumably in a city bigger than mine). Fun ideas, but think I'll stick with random for now. Would make a good gift for an introvert or a high school grad heading to college. Practical and insightful.… (plus d'informations)

I was disappointed in this short book. I had read a synopsis of it and it sounded interesting, but, frankly, it really didn't say anything I didn't already know.
The research included was illuminating, but really only served to reinforce ideas and conclusions I had already reached. From smiling and greeting strangers while on a walk, to engaging with strangers while on a subway or bus, to talking to strangers while waiting inlines, everything covered in this book was really not new, and I believe most people could have pretty much come to the same observations and conclusions that are reached in this book.… (plus d'informations)