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Chargement... How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don'tpar Lane Moore
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Inscrivez-vous à LibraryThing pour découvrir si vous aimerez ce livre Actuellement, il n'y a pas de discussions au sujet de ce livre. A boy being lonely and a girl being lonely emanates vastly different experiences. I couldn't relate to any of the writing. Maybe if you're a girl you'll like it better. But for me, 80% of the book went completely over my head. ( ) Beautifully written and sitting somewhere between memoir and self-help, which may turn some people off, but not to fear: there's no checklists or journaling exercises here, just some heartfelt messages from an author who wants her readers to love themselves. This is what it's like to fumble your way through adulthood when you spent your childhood with dysfunctional, broken people who hurt you and blamed you for making them hurt you. Even when everything looks like you've got it all together and you can't help but think that if you were really that special, or even basically acceptable, your own parents would have liked you--right?--so you must just have fooled everyone. In one section she talks about the self-help industry's obsession with telling traumatized people to stop blaming their abusive parents for abusing them; it was spot on and reminded me of my own review of one such book. The parts about seeking out unsafe partners and situations because they were familiar? Yep. The parts about having a broken fear response because you've already been through terrible things that somehow didn't kill you? Yep. The parts about not knowing how to remove yourself from an unsafe situation because honestly that's never been an option before and you hadn't even considered it? Yep. It's hard to tell for me, having skimmed a bunch of the reviews, how many readers and reviewers are coming from a similar background. Maybe a few? Normally I focus on the negative reviews because that's how I learn quickly about whether or not I'll like something: for example, if there's a lot of 1 or 2 star reviews complaining that the book is obviously part of a SJW plot to destroy natural, god-given sex or race hierarchies, I know I'm going to love that book. You can learn a lot about a story by noting what people consistently complain about in it. Here what I mostly see in the negative reviews, is a lot of people justifying Lane's fears about being honest about the burdens of this kind of childhood abuse, by being awful and derogatory not about the book, but about the author. It's the stigma and shame in action that keep most people from sharing these stories in action. It's really sad. A series of essays about Moore's life and the trauma she experienced growing up in an abusive family, then experiencing other abusive relationships and encounters. From the title, I had expected something more like essays on a theme, whereas this book turned out to be more just a regular memoir, albeit with themes of loneliness and longing running through it. Moore's style is caustic, bitter, and authentic, and certain parts of it resonated strongly with me. On the other hand, Moore occasionally comes across as dismissive of people who may have experienced different sorts of trauma than she. I'd hesitate to recommend this, because I think Moore's narrative voice is not going to be for everyone. If you're intrigued, maybe read the first chapter and see if you like it. aucune critique | ajouter une critique
"Lane Moore is a fool for love. From her addiction to romantic comedies to her tendency to form instant soulmate connections with strangers, Lane has a way of romanticizing everything and everyone. It's no wonder the New York Times, in a review of her comedy show, 'Tinder Live! with Lane Moore,' called her 'a flirt par excellence.' But her romantic nature belies a decidedly unromantic childhood, one that sent her down a long and difficult road. Lane considers herself an orphan, though she has two living parents. After being abused as a child, bullied by her peers, and targeted by older men at a young age, she became homeless after high school and lived out of her car in Los Angeles. Lonely and afraid, it took years for her to ultimately become empowered enough to start her life over again--but start over, she did. Where others see a void, Lane sees an opportunity. Her estrangement from her family was a catalyst for her to build a new one with a community of friends, comedians, and oddball roommates in Los Angeles and then New York City. Her experience with sexual assault informed her work as the sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan, which turned her into a champion for young women. With an intoxicating blend of dark wit and relentless positivity, Lane sheds light on an often-stigmatized condition and reveals how she harnessed and drew strength from her loneliness to become the creative powerhouse she is today"-- Aucune description trouvée dans une bibliothèque |
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