A case of "Catchy Title Does Not Meet Expectations" -- I gave up because the writing was convoluted and disorganized. I had no sense of where the book was going or what it was trying to say (other than dating in the 21st century is hard, I guess) so bye-bye. Life's too short to read poorly written books, no matter how great the title is. ( )

I appreciated the humour in this book. As a 31 year old, almost all of the pop culture references were aimed directly at me. This book is more a look at modern dating rather than trying to understand men. Feels as if you are chatting to your BFF over drinks. ( )

Written by a writer of The Onion and a comedian, this book is very much click bait. There is no real hating men or disliking them in the book. She has spreadsheets and statistics and crazy other details as well as obsessions with men galore.

If you're getting this for the title, for dating, or for anything, it won't be what you want. If you're like me, and get it to roll around reading something on a slow day, it's okay. I wouldn't call it a book or anything useful, it's more all about the writer and her perspectives and that's it, nothing more. If she interests you, then this is for you. ( )

The title How to Date Men When You Hate Men might mislead the passive observer to believe this is a how-to book or a self-help book. It is not. The book is about the modern-day dating world and the author's experiences. It speaks on the unrealistic expectations out there for women these days, struggling being real and honest but appearing "perfect". The book explores on the roller coaster ride of dating with author anecdotes that remind you that you are not the only one thats been through it.
Blythe Roberson paints a humorous picture of the dating world as she sees it. I especially related to the dichotomy that exists within us of wanting to be strong independant feminists that are true to themselves and who they are, but also desire to be admired and attractive to our love interested, no matter how ill advised and misguided they may be. ( )

When an author is also a comedian, you can expect a lot of quotable lines. Like the title, although perhaps it's not as good as her original choice: "Who Cares If He's Not That Into You, Trump Is President, Jesus Christ!" Roberson, who is a writer for Stephen Colbert's show, actually does enjoy smooching and hanging out with men; and, as a white cis woman, she's quick to acknowledge her privilege. The book started slowly for me but by the end I was resolved to memorize entire pages. Thus, the many truisms I delightedly share:

"Women are socialized to pay attention to and to cater to people's emotions in a way that men are not."

"I now know that true chillness can come from being do demoralized by American politics that you cannot care about men."

"Men generally do not want to investigate subtle emotional meltdowns. When you show any kind of negative feelings to them, they often just, like, ignore it until it goes away."

"The idea that talking about love is frivolous is only applied to women. When men do the same thing, they are "carefully observing the nuances of the human heart", and Pulitzers get thrown at them."

"Our culture tells us that a woman's "no" means "convince me"."

"In my opinion, all truly successful people have lived in a constant state of stress since about age sixteen. They find happiness not by getting rid of that stress, but by finding a way to normalize its existence, and also by moving upstate."

"Most of everything in human history was barely planned and probably a mistake anyways."

"External validation is something we are all taught to crave from a very early age, and the search for it makes up the entire personality of our current president."

"Obviously, there exist couples who have been together their entire adult lives. I would guess that those people are either very lucky, very religious, or very, very good at conflict resolution."

"I always assume people are feeling more emotions than they are. Maybe this would be solved if I listened to podcasts instead of spending my entire commute listening to Joni Mitchell and imagining all the emotions everyone I know is [NOT] feeling." ( )