***This book was reviewed for Readers' Favourite.***

Wayne Clark’s he & She is a wonderfully introspective novel. Kit Cayman is a middle-aged man whose life has fallen into a soul numbing rut. He is a man going through andropause, the masculine equivalent of menopause. A translator by day, and amateur musician in his free time, Kit has reached the point in his life where he questions the choices he has made that led him here. He feels unfulfilled.

A chance glimpse of a beautiful young woman stirs Kit out of the staleness his life has fallen into. It wakens within him hungers and need he hadn't fully been aware of before now. We follow Kit as he ventures into a world considered taboo by most, the world of BDSM. If this is a world new to the reader, as it is to Kit, said reader will get a proper introduction to it, as well as an understanding of some of the factors that may draw one to explore (and enjoy) this hidden and variegated path.

Rather than being a bit of trite or fluffy, feel-good ‘pass the time’ bit of reading, he & She is a rich psychological and philosophical exploration into human nature and human need. Clark’s writing is fluid and smooth, mostly being devoted to a narrative form, with sparse dialogue. He makes it work, and work well.

Unlike stories with a superficial similarity, (think Fifty Shades of Grey) Kit is a character who is ‘real’, a character we can identify with. He is ordinary, average. This isn't about romantic fantasy as played out in romance novels, but real life.

You won't find happy endings in Clark’s he & She, no pun intended. If that's what you are most interested in, walk away now. If, however, human nature intrigues you, and you aren't too afraid of being prompted to introspection, then this is most certainly the read for you! ( )

I was very excited to win this one through a LibraryThing giveaway. It’s more of a literary novel that incorporates BDSM than an erotic novel, but still very much in line with my interests. The prose is deftly crafted, the plot…well, again, it’s a literary novel, but the action is never stuck in a rut without the author intending it, and the characterization is fascinating.

Literary novels about older men rediscovering their zest for life through sex, usually with a younger woman, can carry some truly distasteful undertones of misogyny. This story happily avoids that, and I’m convinced the sometimes flat and not infrequently fetishized female characters are written that way because of K’s perspective, not the author’s. Even so, this does not make K a detestable, dirty old man–on the contrary, he is sensitive and generous, and some may find his sometimes tired fantasies just a little sad. Still, other readers may understandably find that small comfort as they have to read about girlfriend Alana’s “Inner Latina” who is both submissive and sexy (okay, yeah, I’m not a fan of that one either, nor do I want to excuse it). But the “Egyptian Princess,” who is the She of the title, clearly has her own independent goals and concerns, some of which the reader and K never get to the bottom of. (Yes, her nickname is another instance of racialization, one that gets picked apart as it turns out to be her marketing angle–she variously attests to actually be from Morocco, Texas, and New Jersey).

For all my opening grumps, the book is well-written–each word is clearly chosen with care–and I enjoyed the depiction of a freelancer’s life (not always glamorous, as I can appreciate even more since hanging up my freelance editing shingle myself) and how K’s sexual desires are handled matter-of-factly but with touches of lyrical romanticism and even sexiness. No purple prose here, but it’s also not coarse, achieving a sense of realism that focuses as much on the emotions involved as the actions and sensations. Again, this isn’t erotica–as a pro domme, the Egyptian Princess doesn’t do sex with clients.

In fact, inability to keep a professional distance between K and his Princess is what spurs the main conflict of the story. While it’s a bit predictable, and certainly well foreshadowed, the execution is compelling and at times acutely painful. Even more so because of how happy I was when K’s new relationship was helping him get a grip on his life.

Many of the things that grated me in the beginning had me downright emotionally invested by the end. And I especially like the lingering question of whether the Princess ever cared for K, or if she was only using him. There’s evidence in all directions. (My personal answer is "both").

My complete review can be found at my blog. ( )

This is not the kind of books i enjoy reading.. Sorry :( ( )

'he & She' is a love story though not a typical one. An New York based translator drinks permanently and has lost both his permanently appointed job and his sexuality. But he finds a way back to a life that 'makes sense after all': It is the way using absolute devotion to a very young mistress - his dominatrix. The latter has her own troubles realizing a fulfilled love life and is many years his junior.

In staying within the borders of being domme and customer they nevertheless detect their feelings for one another. So it is a book about love that never materializes in mutual sensations of the conventional kind. No, they need a special version of it - one that uses floggers and the like ... ( )

I was given this book in exchange for an honest review.

I was surprising fulfilled after reading this book. A lot of books that have the BDSM tag on them don't hold a lot of depth. This one has you so emotionally invested you feel like Kit and you can't stop turning the pages, wanting more. If you are wanting a starter book of BDSM this is perfect, the scenes aren't too graphic but the images they leave are sexy. Can't wait to read more from this author. ( )