Patti Stanger
Auteur de Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate
A propos de l'auteur
Crédit image: Fred Rockwood
Œuvres de Patti Stanger
Étiqueté
Partage des connaissances
- Date de naissance
- 1961-05-31
- Sexe
- female
- Nationalité
- USA
Membres
Critiques
Statistiques
- Œuvres
- 3
- Membres
- 66
- Popularité
- #259,059
- Évaluation
- 3.4
- Critiques
- 5
- ISBN
- 6
I do think some people underestimate this book; most of it is sound advice, if some a little biased and we wished we were past these old ideas. However, they are still alive not because Patti Stanger says to abide by them (for your own sake in not fighting the larger battle, she implies). Like therapy, you don't have to take all the advice. Take what you like and leave the rest.
I actually got a fair portion of what I needed from the book. I did try the Dating Detox and really thought about the issues at hand (of what and who I want). I think it was good advice to consider not only what my type was, but what type I am. While I will not be following all of her advice, I thought it was all interesting to consider (I myself would never do the non-threatening ultimatum for an engagement, but I could see how she constructed it and how this strategy might work elsewhere. As well, I am never opposed to have tools in my toolbox even if I do not intend to use them). Maybe this is because I read other reviews first (thus I was prepared), but I did not find her suggestion on some women needing to lose weight as insulting as other people did: not only is it a sad reality that many men are opposed - if not insulting regarding - women's weight, but she advocated the golden ratio which is more akin to being appropriate to your own size. Yes, I disliked even thinking about it, especially in relation to myself, but I must admit the realism of that advice.
The piece of advice I know for certain I will take (aside from the detox and just internal considerations) is the "no sex without a relationship." It's not because I believe it is the only way to get the long-term relationship I want (and her advice with it has merit, even if it doesn't work for everyone), but because it was me. I often felt I had sex too early in a relationship (and did have trouble for it) but I couldn't put my finger on what it was or how to articulate it. After reading about that, I now know what I want and I no longer feel like it is an unreasonable request. I feel more confident about putting my foot down and asking for someone to wait until I am more comfortable.
While on the surface, it can appear shallow, this book is far more well-thought out than many reviewers give it credit. I am suspicious of anyone who refers to a particular book as life-changing, and I wouldn't say this book changes my mind. I would say that it will make you think about what you want and how to get it. Is that not why you would be searching for this book in the first place?… (plus d'informations)