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Phil Jourdan
Auteur de Praise of Motherhood
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Phil Jourdan is a musician, translator and columnist from Portugal, living in the UK.
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- Œuvres
- 3
- Membres
- 30
- Popularité
- #449,942
- Évaluation
- 3.4
- Critiques
- 6
- ISBN
- 8
- Langues
- 1
Most of the book is written in a stream-of-consciousness style, with an odd way of switching point-of-view mid-paragraph with no warning. It's also deeper and more philosophical than I usually read. Jourdan gets a little wordy at times, but I can't really complain about that as I've been known to do that a time or two myself while writing.
Jourdan goes off on tangents of fantasy to try to explain the parts of his mother's life with which he is unfamiliar. Almost one full chapter is devoted to the speculation of the life story of a man who may or may not even have existed. Also, the book title seems misleading to me. This book is really about the author and his relationship with his mother is a secondary story line.
About halfway through, the book finally "clicked" for me. Jourdan is brutally honest in describing his feelings. He's angry and he's numb and he's confused. Just as many of are after a tragedy, but are afraid to speak those feelings for fear they'll make us look bad or different. It's very obvious that despite whatever difficulties may have existed between Jourdan and his mother, he loved her deeply. He writes of the numbness he feels in the days after her death, the feeling that it must all be a grand joke that his mother was playing on him and his sister. I especially liked it when he wrote of the time the two of them spent in the kitchen.
"I felt a bond with her stronger than any other, and it was because we were in the kitchen, doing something I cared nothing about in theory, but enjoying it still because we were together and loved each other."
It was heart-breaking to read of his mental breakdowns in his teen years and how terrified he was to tell his mother what was wrong even as he desperately wanted help, but it helped make sense of many things. If I understood correctly, he was only 20-21 years old at the time of her death. This isn't mentioned until close to end of the book, but it actually explains a lot. A typical young man of that age is still in the "selfish" phase. He isn't old enough yet to really cherish his parents and want to take the time to get to know them. After a lifetime of depression and other severe issues, it's hardly surprising that Jourdan didn't know his mother very well. He's still trying to get to know himself.
Chapter 12 is very poignant and what I expected from the whole book when I chose to read it -- except the last section of the chapter, which was just weird and had nothing to do with his mother. And I have to say that the duct tape incident is quite entertaining, considering the context.
Content warning: This book contains a scene depicting child molestation and one line about oral sex with a prostitute (not in the same scene).
I received this book free from the author in exchange for an honest review.… (plus d'informations)