Deborah L. Plummer
Auteur de Some of My Friends Are...: The Daunting Challenges and Untapped Benefits of Cross-Racial Friendships
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Deborah L. Plummer is a psychologist and diversity solutions thought leader. She is founder of D.L. Plummer Associates, a consulting firm specializing in diversity management. Plummer lives with her husband Michael Bussey and their two pugs in Cleveland Heights, Ohio.
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- Œuvres
- 4
- Membres
- 76
- Popularité
- #233,522
- Évaluation
- 4.1
- Critiques
- 14
- ISBN
- 9
I'll address the negative aspects first:
Right from the get-go, she was a little too cut-and-dried. On page 10, she states: and then These were too strong of statements to make, especially her assertion that one can't live an authentic life unless they socialize with other races. My first thought went to individuals who live in rural areas where they don't have the option of mixing with other races, to children whose parents dictate their social lives, and to people who are incapacitated in some way and can't socialize at all (for example, a person in a coma). To imply that these people can't live a "true" Christian life is just wrong. Her statement may be true for many people, but she never bothers to clarify this. And the idea that cross-racial friendships are the only way to express "gospel values" is not in the Bible. There are many ways to express these values, and they all stem from love, to be sure, but again, not everyone has the opportunity to interact with people of other races. She then contradicts herself on page 16: It's not necessary... unless you're a Christian?
The author sometimes comes across as a bit arrogant, and yes, even racist. She states that she grew up with "above-average intelligence." Now, perhaps she really is exceptionally intelligent, but was it really necessary for her to flatter herself? On page 49, she states: Because apparently, all whites think alike.
"All of our ancestors [book is written for an American audience], except for those of Native American Indians, arrived in this country by boat - the difference is in the kind of boat. Some were cruise ships and some were slave ships." p 104
While I understand there is a huge difference in being forced into slavery and coming to America of your own accord, it is frustrating to me when authors exaggerate to try and make a point. It makes the actual point that much less impactful. The ships that many (most?) immigrants have arrived on for the last 300ish years, could not in any way be described as cruise ships.
There were also some moments where she seemed to be treating God as relativistic... as in, any god(s) will do, and that we somehow all worship the same one(s). There is quite a lengthy passage in the book about the Baha'i religion where this was very apparent. I don't know if she actually believes that (she is a Christian of the Catholic tradition, and the description of the book states that it is written from a Christian approach) or if this was simply her attempt to not rile anyone up, but it was a miss, in my opinion.
Lastly, the book was not organized very well - the chapters are not distinct; instead, they all muddy together.
But there is good in the book, too! So let's turn to that.
"Being understood and understanding the other's race is an issue on both sides. Whites are particularly afraid of messing up and people of color are afraid that whites will mess up." p 69
I really appreciated her acknowledgement of this aspect. It is very difficult to reach out and befriend others when it's obvious that they are just watching and waiting for you to fail, so they can pounce and use your mistakes against you - and everyone who is the same color as you.
I think the strongest points of the book were her ten tips to people of color and whites.
Her list For People of Color: Ten Easy Steps to Stop Whining, on page 106, included: and Her list For Whites: How Not to Exude Privilege, on page 107, included: and I also agreed with her comment on religious life on page 21: Overall, this was an okay read. I wouldn't likely recommend it to individuals, though it could inspire good discussion if read in a group. (There are group questions at the end of each chapter for this purpose.)
This was written in 2004, and there have been updated and revised editions since then. Perhaps those address some of the negative points I mentioned and include more of the positive aspects, I don't know.… (plus d'informations)