Jamie Patterson

In her memoir, Lost Edens, Jamie Patterson gives the reader a glimpse into the abuse and manipulation she endured during her marriage as well as the resulting emotional turmoil she faced upon leaving it. In sincere and beautiful prose, she puts into words the heartache and desperation of someone realizing that the life she built around her love and marriage was ending. Poignant and honest, Lost Edens accurately captures the subtle yet pervasive manipulation of a controlling and unstable spouse. As promised, the book read like a novel and I didn't want to put it down.… (plus d'informations)

Sometimes, the hardest review to write is one in which I love the book. I loved this book. This is a short memoir about the abandonment and betrayal of a husband written in his wife’s point of view. It’s also a memoir about domestic abuse. I can’t remember the last time I read a memoir in which the writer was so brutally honest about herself, about what she went through. It takes a lot of strength to admit your weaknesses; it takes a lot to ask for help. If I had to describe Jamie Patterson in one word, it would be courageous.

I can’t begin to tell you how wonderfully raw and honest this book is. This book was especially personal to me. I have the upmost respect for Ms. Patterson for taking an experience that was so personal and sharing it with us. Those of us who have felt it understand her. Those who have not experienced it for themselves, or sadly are there now, will see that there is healing. There is hope.

For me, this is a must read. I love the way it is written, short and factual. She doesn’t sugar-coat the truth. It’s startling how from the outside looking in, you can see how controlling and abusing her husband is. What I respect about Ms. Patterson is in her honesty about his behavior and words, she is truthful about her beliefs, reasoning, and feelings. On the inside looking out, I can wholly understand her need to make her marriage work, to fight for her husband and their relationship, to honor the commitment, and to blame herself for the failure.

I loved this book because there were so many morsels of goodness. I loved that she wrote, “My pain is too big for these enclosed woods.” I love that she found a way to elucidate the feeling of a pain that is much larger than she is, the kind of pain that consumes her, stealing every thought and emotion.

Finally, I will leave you with this, her words on the end:

“Endings rarely announce themselves. They steal in and go nameless until long after their work is done.”… (plus d'informations)

Writing about emotional abuse is not an easy task, especially when it is a true story. How does one tell a story to show this when each incident, taken alone, can be interpreted as no big deal?

Lost Edens offers a unique glimpse into the dynamics of manipulative control which, through repetition, gradually damages a person’s self-esteem. And when the manipulator is someone you love and married, there is an even bigger problem of acceptance of the situation. Most make defensive excuses for the one loved; taking onto oneself the fault for the problem.

“If only I did this, or if I did that, he wouldn’t be upset.” “It is all my fault.” “Why can’t I be a better wife?” “I’m sorry,” is instinctively said at the first sign of any displeasure. The downward spiral is so difficult from which to escape.

Jamie Patterson tells her story in a first person narrative that has the reader accompanying her. Like her family and friends, readers will alternately want to help her; question her defense of him and condemnation of herself; be afraid for her; be angry at him for what he does; be angry at her for taking it; but through all these feelings, readers will root for her until the end for her to finally see what’s really happening in her life and hopefully to find a way to survive to go on to take back her own life.

With realistic characterizations and good dialogue that will keep the reader involved and caring, Lost Edens is a story that needed to be told to show the signs of emotional abuse that cause people to disappear in their own lives for the sake of the other.… (plus d'informations)