Tom North

Copy received from Giveaway.


As I started reading this books, I had the vague memory of what 'Yours, Mine and Ours' was...was it a movie, a TV show? I had no idea, maybe that's why it wasn't really a shocking tale to me. And I continued reading without bothering about it. Just as well, the author proceeded to explain it pretty well.

What I enjoyed about this book is that it is all about the process of healing oneself from any kind of abuse or trauma suffered in the past, and the author did a good job of giving readers several options if they find themselves in a similar predicament.

As with all non-fiction stories go, I have to keep reminding myself that the stories that the authors tell don't necessarily follow a story-telling format and that is what I find a bit hard to follow with this book. I feel like the author started to tell a really interesting bit of story but forgot about it half-way through and proceeded with the next bit of story, but maybe that's just me.

Readers who enjoy reading about self-help and alternative healing option, and people with an open-mind about dabbling into different religions will certainly enjoy what this book has to offer, as for me, I was just really curious about the big family with 18 children part.… (plus d'informations)

True North: The Shocking Truth about Yours, Mine & Ours is a memoir by Tom North, one of the children in the Beardsley/North marriage that the 1968 movie, Yours, Mine and Ours was based on. The problem is that the movie version was fiction. The real life blended family that the Beardsley/North union created was fraught with abuse, mostly at the hands of Frank Beardsley, but Helen was a distant mother and did little to stop it.

Tom's father, Richard, tragically died when he was six, leaving Helen widowed with seven children and pregnant with her eighth child. You should all know the story - not long after, she met and married Frank Beardsley, a widower with 10 children. Right from the start Frank was verbally and physically abusive to the children. Tom divulges several incidents that happened to him and other members of the family, but he doesn't give a laundry list of details or necessarily dwell on the abusive past. Instead he just talks about his life growing up and what he did. There were things that saved him from what could have turned into a self-destructive path.

Living in Carmel helped Tom escape from his home. He spent a lot of time fishing at the beach. He became a certified scuba diver. He tried drugs, but once he learned about Transcendental Meditation, he stopped the drug usage and turned to TM instead. He left home right after high school at 17, and although he was still forced (or felt obligated) to work in the family's businesses (for which none of the children were paid), he also got another job. The hours he was working were so long and hard that his health was jeopardized. Tom found a way to pursue his dream of going to the college he wanted to attend. It was a relief to go work for his uncle in Alaska on a boat fishing for salmon in order to earn money to go to college.

The inspirational message is that although Tom was emotionally traumatized by events from his childhood, he found a way to make his life worthwhile, content, and peaceful.

There are a couple places where Tom went on a bit too long for me (salmon fishing, TM, college experiences) and lost my complete interest, but the main point of his book is that he survived and this should give hope to others that may be in similar circumstances. The last couple of chapters definitely provide closure.

The memoir helpfully includes a list of resources and an index. Recommended

Disclosure: My Kindle edition was courtesy of Tom North via Netgalley for review purposes.… (plus d'informations)