Elisa Medhus
Auteur de Raising Children Who Think for Themselves
A propos de l'auteur
Dr. Elisa Medhus, an honors graduate of the University of Texas Medical Branch, built and operated a successful private medical practice in Houston for thirteen years
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This book tells of the communication between the author, a sceptical doctor, and her son, Erik, after he killed himself. This communication takes place with the aid of so-called spirit translators, first Kim and then Jamie.
Though Erik suffered from learning difficulties, Tourette´s syndrome and bipolar disorder, he was a wonderful, non-judgemental person who could talk to anyone and listened to people with compassion. He had a big heart; he was loving, kind, understanding and willing to sacrifice for others.
After his death Erik began to visit friends and family in their dreams, communicated with them and played pranks on them.
Erik explains “that spirits can move objects by altering the energy field in front of or behind them”.
Erik uses at times rather obscene language, as he did when on Earth.
Elisa asks about the life review, and Erik tells her that you get to feel the “emotions and impressions that other people perceived of you. You get to see yourself, what you´ve done … You see yourself through other people. --- You´re seeing through their eyes and feeling what they felt.”
There is sex and food on the other side, but it´s “not physical like that” – it´s different.
“There´s no conflict in Heaven or Home. So when the human dies and becomes a spirit again, the ease of life is sometimes shocking --.”
There is Peace, Unconditional love, and telepathy. You can go wherever you want to go.
Other things Erik loves in Heaven are time travel, going back into your past lives, and the Akashic Records. “I go into (the library) and all my past lives, my future lives, my now lives, my afterlife lives are all finely tuned.”
In the Akashic Records, or the library, when you look for information it´s like a never-ending page --- “You don´t have to manually unroll it. The information just comes to you.”
Erik has a “welcome home” cake, and is offered therapy, which he accepts.
They can manifest anything they want. They imagine what they want to eat, and it´s right there. They live where they want and how they want. (This fits in with Robert Monroe´s descriptions of the afterlife in his three books.) They don´t feel hot or cold, unless they want to. Thought creates reality instantly.
Erik says he´s got “a very high level of enlightenment”. He figures he has one more lifetime to go and that´s it.
He has a boat and his own place like a condo, a bachelor pad. They can “go out for pizza, have relationships, get married, it´s just the same.” They have “their life´s work as souls”, they travel and can have children. He has a leather couch and a big flat-screen television.
He informs us that anyone in spirit form knows what people on the earthly plane say. They eavesdrop on what we say, and on what we think and feel!
There are exciting chapters on death in general, on the life review, and on “the abilities of an untethered soul”.
Erik´s life work now in Heaven is “bringing to light the story of teen suicide” and teaching and healing. There are spirits like counsellors who help people look at their life plans. They help those with torn energy to mend and heal.
In the afterlife there are energy healing centres, particularly for those who first cross over, or those who died of a sudden illness or had traumatic lives or deaths.
There are different areas of the afterlife based on different intensities and kinds of energies (again as described by Robert Monroe).
Atheists have a “narrower vibration – a different vibrational afterlife”.
There are fascinating, deep chapters on souls, the nature of consciousness, time and space, matter and reality, love and fear, the nature of higher powers and “who are we and why are we here?”
The human spirit is never born, it´s just a piece of the whole. Prime Source has always existed. We are the parts and the whole, like a hologram.
The book was even better than I´d expected, and I can´t recommend it highly enough – I found it to be extremely important for those seeking metaphysical knowledge.… (plus d'informations)
Though Erik suffered from learning difficulties, Tourette´s syndrome and bipolar disorder, he was a wonderful, non-judgemental person who could talk to anyone and listened to people with compassion. He had a big heart; he was loving, kind, understanding and willing to sacrifice for others.
After his death Erik began to visit friends and family in their dreams, communicated with them and played pranks on them.
Erik explains “that spirits can move objects by altering the energy field in front of or behind them”.
Erik uses at times rather obscene language, as he did when on Earth.
Elisa asks about the life review, and Erik tells her that you get to feel the “emotions and impressions that other people perceived of you. You get to see yourself, what you´ve done … You see yourself through other people. --- You´re seeing through their eyes and feeling what they felt.”
There is sex and food on the other side, but it´s “not physical like that” – it´s different.
“There´s no conflict in Heaven or Home. So when the human dies and becomes a spirit again, the ease of life is sometimes shocking --.”
There is Peace, Unconditional love, and telepathy. You can go wherever you want to go.
Other things Erik loves in Heaven are time travel, going back into your past lives, and the Akashic Records. “I go into (the library) and all my past lives, my future lives, my now lives, my afterlife lives are all finely tuned.”
In the Akashic Records, or the library, when you look for information it´s like a never-ending page --- “You don´t have to manually unroll it. The information just comes to you.”
Erik has a “welcome home” cake, and is offered therapy, which he accepts.
They can manifest anything they want. They imagine what they want to eat, and it´s right there. They live where they want and how they want. (This fits in with Robert Monroe´s descriptions of the afterlife in his three books.) They don´t feel hot or cold, unless they want to. Thought creates reality instantly.
Erik says he´s got “a very high level of enlightenment”. He figures he has one more lifetime to go and that´s it.
He has a boat and his own place like a condo, a bachelor pad. They can “go out for pizza, have relationships, get married, it´s just the same.” They have “their life´s work as souls”, they travel and can have children. He has a leather couch and a big flat-screen television.
He informs us that anyone in spirit form knows what people on the earthly plane say. They eavesdrop on what we say, and on what we think and feel!
There are exciting chapters on death in general, on the life review, and on “the abilities of an untethered soul”.
Erik´s life work now in Heaven is “bringing to light the story of teen suicide” and teaching and healing. There are spirits like counsellors who help people look at their life plans. They help those with torn energy to mend and heal.
In the afterlife there are energy healing centres, particularly for those who first cross over, or those who died of a sudden illness or had traumatic lives or deaths.
There are different areas of the afterlife based on different intensities and kinds of energies (again as described by Robert Monroe).
Atheists have a “narrower vibration – a different vibrational afterlife”.
There are fascinating, deep chapters on souls, the nature of consciousness, time and space, matter and reality, love and fear, the nature of higher powers and “who are we and why are we here?”
The human spirit is never born, it´s just a piece of the whole. Prime Source has always existed. We are the parts and the whole, like a hologram.
The book was even better than I´d expected, and I can´t recommend it highly enough – I found it to be extremely important for those seeking metaphysical knowledge.… (plus d'informations)
There is so much I can say about this book but I want to keep it simple. The author mentioned several times that she was raised as an atheist and that she is a skeptic and a scientist. But she didn't discuss atheism in a way that indicated she had any productive understanding of it. And she didn't use any kind of scientific method or skeptical understanding to really evaluate what was happening.
In my opinion, the author missed a golden opportunity to really evaluate the issue of whether she could communicate with her son after his death. The medium presented her interactions with Erik in such a preposterous way that it would have been easy to put her abilities to the test. Instead, the author's goal seemed to be to negate her grief and to maintain some semblance of contact with her loved one.
That's fair enough and she is more than entitled to approach her despair in whatever way she chooses. But it is disingenuous to present this book as any kind of credible evidence for the afterlife. The very fact that she listed the M.D. title in her name on the book was also misleading because she didn't present any kind of medical knowledge that would be relevant to her son and the afterlife. I had high hopes that this would be a compelling book about an important topic and it fell utterly flat.… (plus d'informations)
In my opinion, the author missed a golden opportunity to really evaluate the issue of whether she could communicate with her son after his death. The medium presented her interactions with Erik in such a preposterous way that it would have been easy to put her abilities to the test. Instead, the author's goal seemed to be to negate her grief and to maintain some semblance of contact with her loved one.
That's fair enough and she is more than entitled to approach her despair in whatever way she chooses. But it is disingenuous to present this book as any kind of credible evidence for the afterlife. The very fact that she listed the M.D. title in her name on the book was also misleading because she didn't present any kind of medical knowledge that would be relevant to her son and the afterlife. I had high hopes that this would be a compelling book about an important topic and it fell utterly flat.… (plus d'informations)
Not as helpful as I wanted it to be. I extracted a few nuggets and blogged about them:
borrowed a copy of Raising Children Who Think for Themselves by Elisa Medhus, M.D. from Dandy's therapist because I picked it up and it just fell open to the section on sulking and pouting. Dr. Medhus has this to say:
Make it a rule that if your children try to get something by sulking or pouting, they definately won't get it under any circumstances.
Yup - that's what we do.
No sulkers or pouters allowed in your personal space. They have to take it elsewhere . . . (p. 258)
Yup - we do that too. I got so excited that I'm doing something right that I immediately read that portion aloud to Dandy. He did not seem as happy about it as I was, and in fact did not seem to think I should borrow the book. Funny boy.
The book did not live up to my expectation however, as it was written to a different audience. Over and over, Dr. Medhus asks questions along the lines of "How many times have we, as parents, done thus-and-so" where thus-and-so is some variation of a keeping up with the Joneses line of thought. Dr. Medhus assumes that we as parents are externally driven and often lost me thereby.
That being said, she did have some useful nuggets that I am going to capture by blogging them so that I can remember them later; my mind is a sieve these days.
Nugget #1 - instead of presents, ask for donations to the library, used or new books that we can read and then present to the local library (p. 146). This emphasizes experiences and sharing over possessing and keeping. Dandy obsesses over things, so I think this may be a good tool for him.
Nugget #2 - is The Level System (p. 117-118) which is actually for teens, but I can modify it for our family. In this system, everyone wakes up with full privileges and with each significant infraction loses a level of privileges, ending up at the bottom with only
. . . doing their schoolwork, completing their chores, eating at regular mealtime, trimming their toenails, and picking the lint out of their belly-button.
We've done something similar with chore camp (which grew out of boot camp). What I like about this variation is that we can post a list of house rules and a chart of privilege levels and then, when a rule is broken, matter-of-factly examine the chart and see what the consequences are. I like that I can be as laid-back about this as I am when I say "Oh I notice you are using your outside voice, please go outside (yawn)."
They can't spend all their energy railing against me when we have set it up as house-rules. I am merely the notification aide, not the sheriff, prosecuting attorney, judge, and jailer.
~Suzanne… (plus d'informations)
borrowed a copy of Raising Children Who Think for Themselves by Elisa Medhus, M.D. from Dandy's therapist because I picked it up and it just fell open to the section on sulking and pouting. Dr. Medhus has this to say:
Make it a rule that if your children try to get something by sulking or pouting, they definately won't get it under any circumstances.
Yup - that's what we do.
No sulkers or pouters allowed in your personal space. They have to take it elsewhere . . . (p. 258)
Yup - we do that too. I got so excited that I'm doing something right that I immediately read that portion aloud to Dandy. He did not seem as happy about it as I was, and in fact did not seem to think I should borrow the book. Funny boy.
The book did not live up to my expectation however, as it was written to a different audience. Over and over, Dr. Medhus asks questions along the lines of "How many times have we, as parents, done thus-and-so" where thus-and-so is some variation of a keeping up with the Joneses line of thought. Dr. Medhus assumes that we as parents are externally driven and often lost me thereby.
That being said, she did have some useful nuggets that I am going to capture by blogging them so that I can remember them later; my mind is a sieve these days.
Nugget #1 - instead of presents, ask for donations to the library, used or new books that we can read and then present to the local library (p. 146). This emphasizes experiences and sharing over possessing and keeping. Dandy obsesses over things, so I think this may be a good tool for him.
Nugget #2 - is The Level System (p. 117-118) which is actually for teens, but I can modify it for our family. In this system, everyone wakes up with full privileges and with each significant infraction loses a level of privileges, ending up at the bottom with only
. . . doing their schoolwork, completing their chores, eating at regular mealtime, trimming their toenails, and picking the lint out of their belly-button.
We've done something similar with chore camp (which grew out of boot camp). What I like about this variation is that we can post a list of house rules and a chart of privilege levels and then, when a rule is broken, matter-of-factly examine the chart and see what the consequences are. I like that I can be as laid-back about this as I am when I say "Oh I notice you are using your outside voice, please go outside (yawn)."
They can't spend all their energy railing against me when we have set it up as house-rules. I am merely the notification aide, not the sheriff, prosecuting attorney, judge, and jailer.
~Suzanne… (plus d'informations)
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