Jess McCann

The book starts off reminding women that in looking at the on-going failures in your dating relationships, you must look at yourself to really determine what is at the root of the break-ups. In other words, is it really that every guy that you meet is a “jerk” or afraid to commit? Most likely, not. The common denominator is you! So, Ms. McCann takes considerable time in the beginning of the book going over what types of pitfalls you may be experiencing. There may be things that you are doing to sabotage your own success in finding Mr. Right.

The author then provides useful suggestions on how to remedy your shortcomings and ramp up for a new dating life. She offers useful suggestions on how to behave during a date, when to leave, what NOT to do, what TO do, and drinking do’s and don’ts. Most of her suggestions are common sense… like, deep inside, you know this stuff. I believe that we know that what she is saying is true… and what we should do. But, when it comes to actually doing it, I think that women get scared, insecure, lazy or.. a mixture thereof. I don’t know… Sometimes people make bad choices or dating is just plain hard! For those times, Ms. McCann encourages you to be the best you can be. For example:

Dress to impress - Not necessarily to the 9’s… but, be yourself… be unique…. know what you look good in… put in the effort to make yourself look nice wherever you go. You never know who you are going to run into. Always have some good outfits in your wardrobe that you look good in.
Know Yourself & Love Yourself - You will only be able to sell yourself if you really believe in yourself. Don’t be wishy washy and just go along with what the guy is saying. Have your own opinion and be you!
Keeping him on his toes - Don’t let him know when you are really into him. Have self-respect and allow him to chase you… even if it’s hard
Now, the book is filled with dating advice and the aforementioned are just a few summarizations of what I took from the book. There are good pointers on prospecting men while in public, icebreakers, and “filling the funnel” (i.e. dating multiple men at one time and never take yourself of the market until you are solidly in a fully committed relationship). She also discusses the topic of leaving a date early and not letting it drag on too long, or worst yet, into a weekend. She gives suggestions on alcohol intake, as well.

Here is a neat video where you can watch Ms. McCann work with a really pretty lady with dating “issues:”



Ms. McCann also does a nice job providing parallels between real life dating situations and the sales process. It helps to look at your dating actions from more of an objective point of view.
Favorite Quote/Section:
There was this section of the book that reminded me of things that I’ve said aloud in the past like, “I think if I were married or had a boyfriend, I would be happier.” Yep, I’ve said that in the past!

On Sher’s “Out of Ten Scale:”
I think that this book is PERFECT for somebody who is dating and in their twenties. I think that it can save some women a lot of heartache and embarrassment if they took her advice on some issues. As far as being a help to me… nearing 40 with kids…. I’m not so sure that this is the right book for me. But, that doesn’t make this a bad book… just not suited for my personal situation. Although, I bet Ms. McCann, if she heard me say that… would fly out here and get me hooked up within 2 days, tops! She’s a real go-getter and very positive minded.

I can say that the book did remind me of some basics that I already know, but needed a ”refresher” on. For that, I did enjoy the book. So, for women in their 20’s to early 30’s… I’d recommend this book and give it a 8 out of 10. For old, crusty, curvy women like me who are going nowhere to prospect… am totally glued to books and my blog… who’s kids are killing me slowly… I’d give it a 7.… (plus d'informations)

If you are single and tired of dating the wrong guy this book is for you. I enjoyed the book even though I am not single and looking for a man. The reason I enjoyed the book is because it made me think about the way I act around people whether men or women. I also started to pay attention to the way I act around people. There are parts of the book that I can see also helping you out if you are married.

This book is written by a sales woman, Jess McCann. She has taken the rules for making a sale and has used the techniques to get dates. Some of the things she talks about are knowing your product, love your product, packaging your product. The product in this book is you.

The SEE factor does work. It stands for Smile. Eye contact. Energy. Just try it when you are walking down the street or in the mall. See a guy whether he would be someone you really liked just look at him make eye contact smile with energy, then watch for the reaction.

Jess also dishes on her friends and explains what some of them do wrong. That made the book more real and not just a person trying to tell you something that they haven't tried themselves.

I rate this book 3 1/2 stars out of 5.… (plus d'informations)

Jess McCann's You Lost Him at Hello is part of a TLC Book Tour and I want to thank TLC and Jess McCann for sending along the book for my review.

Despite being married myself, this book has some great advice about how to embrace yourself and become confident--know your product and learn how to sell it. In the dating world, confidence is everything, even if you don't feel confident all the time. McCann lays the groundwork for each single woman in this book, seeking to provide practical applications of sales techniques in the dating world.

The best part of this book is the personal stories of her own dating snafus and those of her friends. These tidbits bring the practical advice to the forefront, detailing how the techniques can be applied to improve each woman's dating life. While a lot of self-help books talk about making drastic changes to your routines and lifestyles in many instances, McCann offers some small steps you can take to get results. Check out Adventures of Wanderlust's post to see how small changes worked for her and her girlfriends.

Here are some main things to keep in mind, which may seem like common sense:

1. Know yourself and love yourself
2. Remain confident and share your opinions
3. Make eye contact and express interest in discussed topics, even those outside your comfort zone
4. Don't be a telemarketer of dating; you cannot convince a man to be interested if he isn't
5. Make yourself available and change up your routine to meet guys in a variety of places to prime the pump--keeping your options open until commitment is broached

This book provides personal stories, saleswoman insights, and tips on how you can change how you interact and attract men. My favorite icebreakers are on page 75:

That drink looks good, what is it? (don't most men drink beer?)
Didn't you go to my high school?

One of McCann's friends likes to ask guys if they've ever been waxed. Now that is one I certainly never would have thought to use.

While some of the advice in this book is common sense, other advice will help those who are still single and tired of playing games, getting dumped, and living in love limbo. There is some great insight into how to gauge men's interest from how they look at you, converse with you, and how they interact with women.

I highly recommend this book for women who want to change their dating outcomes and find a steady relationship that will fulfill them and make them happy. I also think that this book has wider applications for women, teaching them how to become confident and skilled at engaging others in conversation not only on dates, but in friendships and the business arena. McCann does an excellent job of weaving advice into personalized experiences to engage the reader and help her own the lessons inside these pages.… (plus d'informations)