Kate Stone Lombardi
Auteur de The Mama's Boy Myth: Why Keeping Our Sons Close Makes Them Stronger
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The Mama's Boy Myth: Why Keeping Our Sons Close… par Kate Stone Lombardi
Cette critique a été écrite dans le cadre des Critiques en avant-première de LibraryThing.I found Kate Lombardi's book to be an interesting read. I think that it was fairly well researched, and an interesting assessment of some of our cultures gender politics. I would agree that a close relationship between a mother and son does not automatically make the son into a "sissy" or a weaker man. I think that it is an interesting conversation starter, but not entirely relevant across our society. Some of us have gotten beyond these antiquated ideas of our parents and grandparents already.
Cette critique a été écrite dans le cadre des Critiques en avant-première de LibraryThing.The Mama’s Boy Myth (Avery)
By Kate Stone Lombardi
This book seeks to take a cultural negative—the idea that a man is a “mama’s boy”—and turn it into a positive. After all, the book’s subtitle is “Why Keeping Our Sons Close Makes Them Stronger.” Lombardi sites numerous studies to make the case for the ways in which boys growing up with a strong relationship with their mothers is good for boys, families, and society at large.
However, she seems to be making it from a defensive position, battling hard against social pressures that I, at least, was not aware of. She returns again and again to the idea that mothers are pressured to abandon their sons lest they smother the boys’ masculinity; this feels very much of another time, and is not reflected in the lives of any of the men and boys I know. Perhaps this is simply a problem I’ve been blind to, but it feels like the author is making a mountain out a molehill, at the expense of more interesting information.
If you are a mom, and you have a son, and you feel like society wants you to push him away, this book will give you ample evidence and emotional support. But for me, Lombardi’s thesis felt worn, threadbare, and undersold.… (plus d'informations)
By Kate Stone Lombardi
This book seeks to take a cultural negative—the idea that a man is a “mama’s boy”—and turn it into a positive. After all, the book’s subtitle is “Why Keeping Our Sons Close Makes Them Stronger.” Lombardi sites numerous studies to make the case for the ways in which boys growing up with a strong relationship with their mothers is good for boys, families, and society at large.
However, she seems to be making it from a defensive position, battling hard against social pressures that I, at least, was not aware of. She returns again and again to the idea that mothers are pressured to abandon their sons lest they smother the boys’ masculinity; this feels very much of another time, and is not reflected in the lives of any of the men and boys I know. Perhaps this is simply a problem I’ve been blind to, but it feels like the author is making a mountain out a molehill, at the expense of more interesting information.
If you are a mom, and you have a son, and you feel like society wants you to push him away, this book will give you ample evidence and emotional support. But for me, Lombardi’s thesis felt worn, threadbare, and undersold.… (plus d'informations)
Cette critique a été écrite dans le cadre des Critiques en avant-première de LibraryThing.A recent Salon article exposed the recent trend toward gender selection in the US, a practice outlawed in many other countries. Most American women prefer daughters over sons, and it's not hard to see why: girls are perceived as nicer, more gentle, more artistic, and more likely to remain supportive throughout the parents' lives.
In "The Mama's Boy Myth," Kate Lombardi demonstrates the falsehood of those assumptions and many more. She begins with the revelation that many moms are close to their sons - but are ashamed or secretive about it, fearing cultural backlash. She debunks the commonly held belief that "strong male role models," especially connected dads, are essential to raising a boy into a "man," a critique frequently leveled against single moms and lesbian parents. (Not that there's anything wrong with dads, but mothers can do the job, too.) Unfortunately, this expectation actually causes mothers of sons to stay in bad marriages all too often - the statistical information here is mind-boggling.
The history Lombardi explores is sure to fascinate. Did you know that mothers have been blamed for nearly every problem men have ever had? Mothers of the WWII generation were blamed because their sons were "sissies," i.e., not as interested in fighting a war as physicians thought they were supposed to be.
In addition to outlining the problem, Lombardi goes to great lengths to detail possible remedies to the situation. It's already happening, in fact, but the cultural fears surrounding close mother-son relationships are still in place and will need a lot of shaking up to disappear completely.… (plus d'informations)
In "The Mama's Boy Myth," Kate Lombardi demonstrates the falsehood of those assumptions and many more. She begins with the revelation that many moms are close to their sons - but are ashamed or secretive about it, fearing cultural backlash. She debunks the commonly held belief that "strong male role models," especially connected dads, are essential to raising a boy into a "man," a critique frequently leveled against single moms and lesbian parents. (Not that there's anything wrong with dads, but mothers can do the job, too.) Unfortunately, this expectation actually causes mothers of sons to stay in bad marriages all too often - the statistical information here is mind-boggling.
The history Lombardi explores is sure to fascinate. Did you know that mothers have been blamed for nearly every problem men have ever had? Mothers of the WWII generation were blamed because their sons were "sissies," i.e., not as interested in fighting a war as physicians thought they were supposed to be.
In addition to outlining the problem, Lombardi goes to great lengths to detail possible remedies to the situation. It's already happening, in fact, but the cultural fears surrounding close mother-son relationships are still in place and will need a lot of shaking up to disappear completely.… (plus d'informations)
Cette critique a été écrite dans le cadre des Critiques en avant-première de LibraryThing.An interesting read, given the stigma of 'mama's boys', showing the positives and further implications. However, if there is a man in your life that is close with his mother, much of this may come as no surprise. This is a great book for those who are interested in gender politics and the growth of gender identity from youth. A good edition, but for most, does not add to much revelation.
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