Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley

I got this book as an Early Reviewer for Library Thing.
The first thing I want to say is that this is a very Christian faith based book looking at how to use faith in God to help with your attachment style troubles. However, the title and description of the book didn't make it clear that it was going to be faith based at all. Looking at the author bio, I can see that's her area, but I don't typically look at author bio before I read something, so I felt like this was a little misleading.
I did appreciate how the attachment styles were labeled to be more descriptive of what the person is like (Security Guard vs. avoidant attachment style). I requested this book because it's a topic I've been seeing more of lately, and I wanted to learn more. I do like how the styles were explained, but I find the four attachment style method to be overly simplistic, making it harder to identify what work you might need to do for yourself.
I also think the reasoning with caregivers may be focusing too much on early childhood. In my own personal life, I know a number of people who had great caregivers, but then had other problematic relationships later in life, that cause them to turn to some of these attachment styles. But, the focus again on childhood makes it a little harder to identify where you might fall if the unhealthy relationship wasn't in early childhood.
Some of the advice I found to be insightful (as a non-Christian), but other advice felt very much like I should trust God and that would solve my problems. Again, I'm not the audience for this book, so that's just my view on it as someone on the outside.… (plus d'informations)

Unfortunately I did not super love this book. You might like it if you are looking for a Christian based book on attachment, or if you just want to read everything you can get your hands on regarding attachment. It is well written and easy to read and understand. I personally really like Stan Tatkin's Wired for Love on attachment; he also uses metaphors to explain the styles, but I just resonate a lot more with his wave/anchor/island metaphors than with Kuhnley's work metaphors (firefighter, security guard, etc). It's most likely just a personal preference. Also, it is really my pet peeve to discover a book is really really Christian in nature when that is not obvious from the start. You can discern this if you read the author's bio or happen to know that publisher is Christian, but I don't think the average person passing by a table in Barnes and Noble would know this is Christian until they start reading it.… (plus d'informations)