Statistics about child abuse and neglect can overwhelm, yet somehow still fail to impart the very real damage done to children who are then placed in foster and adoptive homes with under-prepared, under-supported families. Emotional damage causes injured children to exhibit "survival behaviors" which can be disturbing and often damage the family environment despite the best intentions and interventions of foster and adoptive parents who wish to help the child heal. The author foresees the influence of these children on foster or adoptive families and offers strategies to transform the upsetting behavior and build positive interaction between the child and family. Selected Reading Questionnaire.