Summary: An explanation from a Christian perspective of the Enneagram and its use in spiritual formation, helping us to live out of our gifting, recognize our blind spots, and experience the grace of God.

Perhaps all of us have asked the question asked by Alice in Alice in Wonderland: "Who in the world am I?" Alice Fryling proposes that the Enneagram is a useful tool for not only understanding ourselves but for living out of our giftedness and experiencing Christ's grace.

Her aim in this book is to offer a thoroughly Christian treatment of the Enneagram (ennea = nine and gram = points, reflecting the nine pointed diagram that is basic to all discussions of the Enneagram). In addition to explaining the different aspects of the Enneagram, each chapter offers both questions for reflection, and a personal meditation from scripture. Most significantly, Fryling understands each of the home spaces on the Enneagram in terms of the gifted true self (the self as God intends us), the compulsion of the false self, and the grace of God enabling us to find our way back to the true self for our type.

After a brief explanation of the nine spaces, she focuses on what she sees as one of the basic insights we gain from the Enneagram, the distinction between the true and false self evident in each of the types. She writes:

"The false self is the person we think we should be but are not. It is the person we want others to think we are. The false self perpetuates the illusion that we are able to love perfectly, to be wise and all-knowing, and to be in control of life. The false self thrives on success and achievement. The problem is not that the false self is a bad person. The problem is that the false self is a façade. It is an imitation of God that we “use” to impress others. The false self languishes in pretense and in grasping for abilities and gifts that are not ours to have. The true self, on the other hand, truly expresses the gifts God has given us to love well" (p. 25).

Fryling then goes on to explain the various aspects of the Enneagram--the three triads of heart, head, and gut, how we might begin to identify our home space, and how our "wings" and "arrows" add to our self-understanding. Having read a number of Enneagram book, Fryling's explanations of these aspects were among the clearest I've encountered, no doubt resulting from the many workshops the author has led on this material. In particular, I found her counsel for identifying our "home space," often just assumed, or reduced to a questionnaire, particularly helpful:

"As happy as inventories might be to tell you your number, most of them require a good deal of self-awareness, something our false self does not want us to have. I'd like to suggest that instead of turning to inventories, you spend some time in quiet reflection, thinking about yourself and what you've learned about the Enneagram. Look for places where you already see yourself. Notice where there are clusters of truth about who you are. Be patient with the process. In fact, you might consider this 'dating the Enneagram.' You do not need to 'marry' the first space you think might work for you. Try it on. Live with it for a while. But let go of it if it doesn't fit. Remember that the Enneagram is supposed to reflect who you are, not dictate who you are" (p. 98).

She also advises sharing descriptions of the different spaces with those who know us well to get their insights, discuss what makes sense and what seems confusing.

Her concluding chapters explore the Enneagram through the lens of the biblical account of creation, fall, and redemption. Then she goes a step deeper and explores the issue of our compulsions, the addictions inherent in each type, and how these drive us to the truth of scripture and the grace of God. Facing our need leads us to the hope of transformation through God's grace, which often comes through suffering, silence, and surrender. She invites us into practices of engaging scripture that deepen this transformative process.

The strengths of this book are not only the clear explanations of the different aspects of the Enneagram, but the thoughtful Christian perspective that transforms this from a self-help tool where we try to "accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative" to a formational resource leading us into a deeper experience of the grace of God in our lives. This book invites an unhurried process of discovering something more of an answer to Alice's question ("Who in the world am I?") for the reader who will take the time to work through its chapters, reflection questions, and meditations. ( )