Tempted to just write "another book with problem that could be solved with lesbianism", but, ehh, I'm not going to do that.

So, this is basically a feminist look at modern heterosexual relationships, marriage, having kids and so on. Both the author and the main character are married, but against marriage as an institution. I don't know how much of it is autobiographical, but I think a lot of it must be, a lot of the anecdotes about men seems a little too real.

Because that part is very real, and very easy to recognize as woman. I have may not have had every encounter that the main character has with men, but I've had my fair share of them, and I've heard stories from other women. That's sadly how it is.

In general when people say "oh don't complain about men so much, be a lesbian instead" I think it's a bit of an over-simplification, but reading this book ... I kinda started to feel that way. Okay, so you don't believe men and women can have equal relationships while living in patriarchal society? You've problably got a point, but why is the solution to have an unequal relationship with a man, when it could be to have a more equal relationship with a woman?

Then again I realize that not all women are attracted to women (though I don't see how that's possible ...), so maybe this book is great for them. For anyone with the alternative, I don't see why it has to be such a big problem. Just because you love someone it doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship with them. ( )

Dröjde länge innan jag tog mig igenom denna sk klassiker. Det är ju ett viktigt ämne som boken tar upp och är väl i princip lika aktuell idag som när den kom ut. Problemet är bara att Sveland inte kan skriva. Hon bemästrar helt enkelt inte romankonsten. Hon är dessutom alldeles för bitter i sitt sätt att framföra inlägget i debatten. Nu har jag läst denna men det blir inget mer av Maria Sveland. Det finns många andra "feministförfattare som jag däremot ska ta mig an. ( )

Gut geschriebenes und nachdenklich machendes Buch. Teilweise kann ich die Emotionen der Hauptprotagonistin schon verstehen und die Grundtendenzen sind mit Sicherheit auch korrekt und diskussionswürdig dargestellt.
Ein bitterer Nachgeschmack bleibt allerdings dadurch, dass der Feminismus mit solcher Bitterkeit und Vehemenz vorangetrieben wird.
Alles in allem ein lesenswertes Buch, wenn man für ein solches Thema in Stimmung ist. ( )

Bitterbitch van maria Sveland, heb ik weggelegd, wat een suf boek. Over groeipijnen bij de hedendaagse vrouw, nou zo depri als deze vrouw is ben ik nooit geweest, ook niet toen de kids klein waren .. ( )

http://radiergummi.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/maria-sveland-bitterfotze/ ( )