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Chargement... How to Control Your Anger Before It Controls Youpar Albert Ellis, Raymond Chip Tafrate
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HTML:"No individual--not even Freud himself--has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy." --Psychology Today CLASSIC SELF-HELP FROM A RESPECTED PIONEER OF PSYCHOTHERAPY Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. Yet in these increasingly stressful times, all of us have acted in anger--and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover: *The rational and irrational aspects of anger *Special insights into your self-angering beliefs *How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger *How to relax *How to accept yourself with your anger ...and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere. Aucune description trouvée dans une bibliothèque |
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At the same time, Ellis in his outlook and style is very classical.
But if instead of “living your life”, as people like to say, if instead of taking only that analysis which is needed, or at least supportable, before taking action necessary to change, if instead of this you simply try to satiate an unquenchable thirst for “knowing”, an almost sexual obsession with superhuman knowledge, then you lose yourself; you’re lost. I’ll spare you the references to the Apostle Paul, but they are there—in the Bible, I mean—if that’s something you’re curious about, and I think in a way it is that sort of thing, even though Dr Ellis wasn’t religious.
As for the recommendations Dr. Ellis makes, I’d like to provide the simplest of sketches, truly, without caricaturing it through lack of skill. Here, then, are the headings in Chapter 13, “Additional Ways of Reducing Your Anger”, not explained but simply listed as a sort of sample:
—review the practical results of anger
—increasing frustration tolerance
—attacking narcissism and grandiosity
—awareness of the harm of anger and violence
—challenging angry attributions
—reducing your feelings of inadequacy
—avoidance of drugs and alcohol
—a philosophy of fallibility
—curbing righteous indignation
—recognizing the irony of hatred
—acquiring humanistic values
—realizing the pain of your opponents
—enhancing your relationships
—cooperative outlook
—workshops, training courses, and psychotherapy
That’s fifteen points; naturally everyone won’t like them all equally. But it gives you a sense of his style, a sense of what I begin to understand that I do not fully understand.
Two points he discusses in different parts of the book (the second in different ways in different places) that I took away from it were: the tension/relaxation exercises, and being reminded of a certain doubt of our ideas and judgments.
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After-thought: To be a little more ‘special than Al, but hey—and I’ll try to avoid specifics because Not being angry at people often irritates almost as much as firing back—but I find that usually when you’re angry you’re angry at some negative front that the person has, which is worse than they really are but which they don’t really have the guts or whatever to live up/down to, right: and basically the whole situation is a result of them not knowing who they are, and you misreading the label they printed, right.
(shrugs) So yeah.