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Best Friends for Life: An Extraordinary New Approach to Dating, Courtship and Marriage--for Parents and their Teens

par Michael Phillips, Judy Phillips

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A Bold Plan For A New GenerationThe state of marriage is alarming--not only in society at large but among Christians as well. Young people need a whole new strategy for finding lifetime mates. Drawing upon their pioneering work in the field of home schooling as well as their work with young people, Michael and Judy Phillips present bold, surprising, sometimes even controversial alternatives to dating as the means for choosing spouses.Best Friends for Life develops revolutionary ideas about parental involvement, about dating as it is usually understood, and about the pressures young people face to make lifetime decisions prematurely. Families who want to choose God's best will find here a strong prescription for wise, sensible, and lasting Christian marriages.… (plus d'informations)
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Title: Best Friends for Life
Series: ----------
Author: Michael & Judy Phillips
Rating: 4 of 5 Stars
Genre: Non-fiction
Pages: 240
Format: Paperback

Synopsis:


The Phillips tell 4 different true stories (with particulars changed for anonymity's sake) about young couples they knew and how they proceeded through their dating, into marriage and how those marriages turned out.

The Phillips are convinced that “dating” has such an abysmal track record when it comes to marriages that last after dating that they want to explore other avenues. Their suggestion? Marry your best friend. Basically, make being friends with the opposite gender a higher priority than romance and really know what you want in a spouse instead of letting it all hang on hormones and feelings.

What does God, through the Bible, say about what is important in a marriage? The Phillips use very few specific Bible verses but count on their audience already having a decent grasp of Scripture. They are writing for someone who already wants what is best according to God's will and is searching that out.

My Thoughts:

I read this originally back in 2000. At the time, I had graduated from Bibleschool. Mrs B was still in highschool and we hadn't a glimmer of the others' existence. I was mad to marry and was reading all the advice books I could get my hands on. I wasn't going to be an “old” man like my dad when he got married. For the record, he was married at 28. I was 30. Ironic isn't it? So I figured if I could get all that advice then Mrs Right would fall into my lap and whammo, we'd have the perfect married life because obviously we'd have BOTH read all kinds of these books and know exactly what to do and what things to NOT do.

So the funny thing is, I actually was friends with Mrs B long before we ever were romantically involved. I met her on Xanga, a blogging site (not sure how much traction it still has any more). She'd written a post about going to a medieval wedding and ended her post with “Have a good Sabbath”. I asked her what she meant by “Sabbath” as I was a Saturday Sabbath keeper and it turned out she was a 7th Day Adventist so she kept Saturday as well. We were friends for a couple of years online but figured we'd never meet. She was in California, I was on the East Coast. I didn't like to travel and she had nothing to draw her to the East. But then a friend of mine, who I'd gone to Bibleschool with, decided he was going to get married. In California. He was in the Navy and would soon be shipping out in a Sub (subbing out?) and I didn't know when I'd see him next so a group of us all went to California. I informed Miss Librarian and invited her as my plus one. Her brother, Sir Grumpsalot, came with her to chaperone and my friends were at the wedding, so it was safe all around. After the wedding that night, I asked her if I could court her. I called her mother that week and a year later we were engaged and 6 months after that we were married. Now, 10 years later, we're STILL happily married.

Now, when I read this book back in 2000, I couldn't have predicted this set of circumstances. In fact, I didn't WANT those set of circumstances. I wanted somebody else. She has since gotten married to a wonderful christian man, has a family and is a bedrock of Faith for her family. But she wouldn't have been right for me nor me for her. It took God to bring the correct Mrs Right into my life. That is what this book is about more than anything. It isn't a hard and fast set of rules that the Phillips promise will bring you the right spouse. But they give solid advice about involving your parents, your friends, and most of all, not letting your hormones and feelings be in control. They are right.

They also give several examples of how people have changed what they've suggested to work for their particular set of circumstances. Some of the things they suggest simply weren't viable for Mrs B and I, such as having family time with each other's families while we were courting. The Phillips are very open that what they are suggesting isn't the end and be all but they do strongly advise young people and their parents to put much more effort into the whole process than just “Oh, we're in love”.

Reading this again, for our 10th Wedding Anniversary, it is uncanny how much God drew us both down this path in our relationship with each other. I for one am thankful for that. Our marriage is strong, we are happy and content with each other and while our lives together haven't been what we've expected (Mrs B was diagnosed with crohn's disease in '10), our foundation of friendship has taken us through the times of hospitalization, lack of work, etc.

The book is a bit dated in regards to things they call out in American Culture, ie, what they considered a cliff is only a mere step compared to the moral cliff America has chosen to step off of now. It was eye opening and a good indicator of just how fast our country has gone down the path of immorality.

But ultimately, God Himself is in charge. He has taken responsibility through Jesus Christ and one day He will return and make it right again. I want to be ready for that and I hope you will be too.

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A Bold Plan For A New GenerationThe state of marriage is alarming--not only in society at large but among Christians as well. Young people need a whole new strategy for finding lifetime mates. Drawing upon their pioneering work in the field of home schooling as well as their work with young people, Michael and Judy Phillips present bold, surprising, sometimes even controversial alternatives to dating as the means for choosing spouses.Best Friends for Life develops revolutionary ideas about parental involvement, about dating as it is usually understood, and about the pressures young people face to make lifetime decisions prematurely. Families who want to choose God's best will find here a strong prescription for wise, sensible, and lasting Christian marriages.

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