I know Constance Wu from her starring role in Crazy Rich Asians. She also starred in the TV series Fresh Off the Boat. I never watched that but I remember there was a big to-do when she tweeted that she was disappointed that the show was NOT canceled. People thought that she was an ungrateful brat and she got a lot of hate for it.

One of the reasons I chose Making a Scene is because I wanted to hear Constance’s side of the story. She does address the tweet towards the end of the book and is very apologetic about it. And her explanation of her feelings at the time makes sense.

The rest of the book kind of feels like an apology tour. Several of the essays are about situations that she wishes she would have handled better and apologizing to the people affected. Conversely, some of the essays are about people who should be apologizing to her, like one of the producers of Fresh Off the Boat who sexually harassed her and a couple of really awful boyfriends.

Speaking of boyfriends, she is very candid and descriptive about her sex life. I didn’t mind but it did take me by surprise for some reason. Maybe because I was assuming she would be more demure like her character in Crazy Rich Asians. I actually love it when celebrities give me the down-and-dirty.

Recommended. ( )

3.5 stars rounded up to 4. I enjoyed some chapters more than others, and some parts are hard to read, especially when Constance talks about her time on 'Fresh Off the Boat' and the backlash that came after she was wildly honest about her feelings on the show getting renewed after thinking it was over. Her authenticity when discussing her mental health and struggles really comes through.

I think she did a great job reflecting on her parents' relationship and how hard it is to look at them as individuals once you are grown and out of the house. It is strange to think about your parents as people when you are growing up... ( )

Best for:
Fans of Constance Wu. People interested in learning about the impact of different aspects of Hollywood on actors.

In a nutshell:
Actress Wu shares stories from her life, mostly focusing on her non-famous time.

Worth quoting:
N/A (Audiobook)

Why I chose it:
I only know Wu from her starring role in Crazy Rich Asians, but this sounded interesting.

Review:
This is a book I find hard to review. I want to commend Wu for how open and honest she is, and how she confronts challenges she’s faced as well as times when she hasn’t acted in the way one would want. Basically, I don’t think she’s sugar-coated anything here. She’s vulnerable, and doesn’t make herself the ‘good guy’ all the time, but she has enough self-awareness where she doesn’t come across as oblivious to any damage her actions may have caused.

That said, I generally wasn’t that interesting in the stories she was telling. That isn’t to say the pieces of herself she chose to share were uninteresting or bad - they just weren’t quite for me. Hence the middling rating.

I do think this is a well-written book. I think I actually might have enjoyed it better had I read it instead of hearing the author read it, because at times it felt like she was acting the stories (intentionally at times), which was leading me to a specific feeling. With a written book, I think there’s a bit more opportunity for the reader to make their own interpretations and conclusions. Though, thinking more on it - is that appropriate for a memoir? Does my opinion of things really matter? It’s not my life, after all.

The aspect that most reviews have focused on was the harassment she faced from a producer while working on Fresh Off the Boat, and her suicidal period after being harassed off Twitter for expressing disappointment at the series being renewed. And those bits are infuriating for sure. But I think her vulnerability around her relationships is also interesting - her romantic relationships, her relationship with her mother, and her relationship with her younger sister. They are complex and complicated situations, and she navigates them without always making herself sound like a victim - she has agency, and sometimes makes good decisions and sometimes doesn’t.

I’m not sure if I would recommend this book, but if it’s on your TBR list, I’d imagine you’ll probably find it a worthwhile read.

Recommend to a Friend / Keep / Donate it / Toss it:
N/A (Audiobook) ( )

nonfiction memoir - Chinese-American actor recounts memories of growing up with three sisters in Virginia, living on her own in NYC and growing her skills as an actor, men she has loved, and dealing with the trauma of rape by one man, sexual harassment and mental abuse by her boss (and the serious mental health crisis brought on by people's unbelieving reaction to her statements). TW/CW: date rape, sexual assault, suicidal thoughts, language.

a quick read with moments of levity as well as seriousness. ( )

enjoyable memoir, honest and real and relatable. show business, love life, growing up. i enjoyed it. ( )