Mikael Krogerus
Auteur de Le livre des Décisions
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Œuvres de Mikael Krogerus
Tout accomplir: De Pomodoro au deep work, les 41 meilleurs modèles de productivité pour aller au bout d'un projet (2023) 1 exemplaire
Erkennen: Das Persönlichkeits-Testbuch für Neugierige: Das Psycho-Testbuch für Neugierige (2021) 1 exemplaire
Книга решений. 50 моделей стратегического мышления 1 exemplaire
Le livre des grands changements (A CONTRE-COURAN) 1 exemplaire
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I’d read three already (and can only really recommend one of those, McRaven’s Make Your Bed), so I decided to see if there was any merit to the rest of the stack.
This one is a yes, with caveats. I'd read the authors' The Decision Book and The Question Book and was quite disappointed with both. Still, open mind and all, I gave this a shot. Twenty-something me might have liked this more. Current-something me (forty years later) would tell twenty-something me to read with a critical eye (but I probably wouldn't have listened.)
Unlike the other two, this one does have some value. This might be the best takeaway:
“But before writing (or speaking), you should ask yourself these questions: What do I really want to say and can I say it more succinctly?”
And this is good: “And in 1984 the communication researcher Walter Fisher came up with a radical thesis: people do not want logical arguments; they want good stories. ”
But... “Negotiating properly means that everyone gets more than they originally hoped for”
No. In a succesful negotiation, both parties are satisfied, which may be less than what they hoped for but still acceptable. (Compromise, on the other hand, leaves both parties unhappy.)
The authors again use some quotes of questonable origin. “Most theories in this book argue that good communication has to do with cooperation. But in reality it’s sometimes a different story. It is no coincidence that the book The 48 Laws of Power , a compilation of classic power strategies by the American author Robert Greene, was a bestseller.” That's not a good book at all ... a bunch of unsourced anecdotes (a BUNCH of anecdotes...multiple per "law") draped in the author's interpretations of applicability. And this came from that:
“Oysters open completely when the moon is full; and when the crab sees one it throws a piece of stone or seaweed into it and the oyster cannot close again, so that it serves the crab for meat. Such is the fate of him who opens his mouth too much and thereby puts himself at the mercy of the listener.’ - Leonardo da Vinci”
Weird. The only source I could find is Greene’s book. And,
“In the twentieth century 'I think, therefore I am' no longer applies, but rather 'Others are thinking of me, therefore I am.' - Peter Sloterdijk”
I couldn't find a source for that one.
A few more highlights:
“Celeste Headlee put it brilliantly in a TEDx speech: ‘If they’re talking about having lost a family member, don’t start talking about the time you lost a family member. If they’re talking about the trouble they’re having at work, don’t tell them about how much you hate your job. It’s not the same. It’s never the same. All experiences are individual. And, more importantly, it’s not about you.”
Take heed
“Don’t ask: ‘What do you do for a living?” Ask instead “What’s keeping you busy these days?”
Second time this has popped up this week. Good stuff.
“Red lie – no one benefits: this is the lowest form of lying. Saying something with complete awareness that the other person knows the statement to be false, even if you sometimes end up also inflicting damage on yourself: ‘The largest audience ever to witness an inauguration.”
Hah!
“Who would you prefer to be?’, ‘How would you like to die?’ and ‘Which characteristics do you most appreciate in a man?
1. They are open questions that you cannot answer with yes or no.
2. The questions require no prior knowledge; in other words, there are no right or wrong answers, only honest ones.
3. They are questions that centre on your counterpart rather than on you.”
“The psychiatrist Eric Berne (1910–70), however, believed that you do not have to go on a painful journey into your past to get to know yourself; it is enough to observe yourself in communication with others.”
Do I need to read Berne? I did read some a long time ago (Games People Play).
“The term l’esprit de l’escalier (“staircase wit”) refers to opinions and ideas that we express with clear, polished pithiness – and which always occur to us too late. ”
Section title: “WORDS AND MEANINGS”
Words matter
“Good reasoning aims to convince, but it also lets itself be convinced. Simply put, it is the search for truth.· Bad reasoning has no interest in the truth; it is simply about wanting to be right.”… (plus d'informations)