A Sensitive, Painful, Hurtful, Sorrowful area of Human Life, Grief:


a. Why did my husband die in a car accident the day after we got married?

b. Why did tragedy strike us?

c. Why him?

d. Why her?

e. Why them?

How to find Meaning?

It's a unique journey for each person.

We may not know why a loved one died and we remain, that is the reality.

Secular Answers:

Perhaps you are a more compassionate person now.

Perhaps you are valuing relationship more.

Few of us take the time to explore what meaning we can create.

Evolutionary response, "Survival of Fittest."

Tamil people's answer to death, grief, suffering:

1. "I am more stronger now"

No, you are not. You are a human being, you are not Robot.

2. "This too shall pass."

Maybe, and next one hits you, what would you do?

3. "The Best is yet to come."

Apply logic to your life, maybe or maybe not, no guarantee.

Men's Reaction to Grief:

Distract themself in Work, Short-term addictions, Burst in Anger, Substance Abuse, not helpful in long-run.

Women's Reaction to Grief:

Call their friends, grief, express emotions, affirm feelings, validate, helpful for them.

Religious Tradition Answer:

The World is fallen, and it has suffering, pain due to man's predilection to evil.

He Suffered, And He is able to empathize.

Looking up to him, the author, comforter enables us to grow more like him.

Allow your feelings, Grieve with him, Cast your burdens on him.

Buddhist Response:

Attachment is the root cause of all suffering.

To detach ourselves would help us attain nirvana.

However, this itself is a desire.

Historical Example:

Abraham Lincoln's Grief & Suffering from NPR, you might find solace from his life.

NPR's Article on Abe Lincoln's Grief

My Poetry on Lincoln's Grief:




Deus Vult,
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In today's society, grief has been "minimized and sanitized ". David Kessler, in this his sixth book, attempts to lead people to seek meaning in grief and to live their lives to the fullest. His examples could lead people to become more sensitive in witnessing other's grief. ( )